Some of my friends were asking me about how I am adjusting to my new role, being a wife? Well, honestly I am very thankful to God that I am not having a hard time with this new ME. I wake up every morning having a positive outlook in life and in my marriage. I know I am married for just over a year to my long-time boyfriend but I guess the things that I’ve seen in my parent’s marriage how they dealt with problems and have really good times even after years of togetherness seem to be working in my marriage. Here I am to share simple tips for newlyweds!
PRAY TOGETHER
I have always seen my parents praying and going to church together and I am very positive that prayer really can work wonders in marriage. Prayer opens up the windows of the soul as it gives calmness and opens up your mind and heart to your partner.
Whenever me and my husband have an argument, we let each other first to calm down and then we pray together. I will ask him to pray for me and I will do the same. Prayer always gives us peace and makes us ready to compromise. Most of the times we don’t even have to talk about the problem again rather we always find the answers and settles it even without discussing it again.
Let me share my secret, when I want my husband to understand my point without nagging him to listen I lay my hands on his forehead while he is asleep and pray that in his sleep may God opens his mind and try to understand my side that with the power of God we will be able to solve our differences. Miracle it may seem but it works!
ITS ALL ABOUT LOVE
Everyday is a great chance to show our husbands how much we love them. Don’t waste any time. Simple ways melt their hearts believe me. Cook their favorite food, find time to surprise him with a simple note telling him how happy you are being his wife, a walk in the park, or whatever you think will remind him of your first months together as a couple.
For Juriz and I, we say “I LOVE YOU” all the time, when we wake up in the morning, before we sleep, and in times we feel like saying it. Hearing these words makes us feel more in love. Say it all the time to your husband don’t save it for special occasions. In marriage, there should not be anymore reservations its giving everything to your partner. Enjoy it and love…love…more love everyday!
FUN TIMES
In marriage, you cannot set aside having fun times with your partner. Moments like these help in keeping the fire burning. It makes marriages more interesting. Juriz and I, loves to do a lot of things together I guess that’s the very reason why we enjoy being with each other. We watch movies once or twice a month, travel once every quarter, and dine out once a week. We even play card games, pick-up sticks, or just tickles each other before we sleep. No matter how busy we are, we try to enjoy and laugh our heart out almost every single day. I have seen this in my own parents and fun times together made them young at heart and kept their marriage far from being boring.
RESPECT and TRUST
Two things husbands need in their own marriages. Respect your husband’s individually as a person and their role being the head of your family. Sometimes it is just simple as, you want to gain respect, give respect. Next is trust him! It is the basic and the most important foundation in marriage. Trusting our husband’s word should be the wife’s main priority. Anyway, we gain everything - their love, their respect, and their trust when they know that we trust them.
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| Tell him, "I trust you or else you know what will happen" hahaha |
Marriage is not a bed of roses all the time but it is in our hands to make it better everyday, to make it work every year, and to make it last a lifetime.
(Photos by Loren Susvilla)
